Parents: A Gateway to Paradise, Author: Issa Abbasi

Not long ago, respecting one’s parents was seen as the norm and today, if you respected your parents after a certain age, you would be seen as “weird.”  How did these standards and actions of respecting our parents fade over so many years? Since when did talking back to our parents become normal and respecting them become old fashioned?

Importance of Respect

In the religion of Islam, respecting one’s parents is so important that after the command to worship the One God, Allah, a Muslim is commanded to be kind to their parents.  Imagine that, right after you are told to obey your Lord, you are told to obey your parents, that’s how important obeying your parents are.

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor.  And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” (17: 23-24)

And if they grow old (your parents), say not to them a word of disrespect or shout at them, but rather respect them with words of honor.  How many of us follow even that verse and instead put our parents through a living nightmare with our requests, needs and wants?

The Status of the Mother

The mother’s status is so important that a companion once asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) “Who deserves my good treatment most?” “Your mother” the Prophet said. And the Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) didn’t just say that once. The companion asked then who and received the same reply.  He asked again and received the same reply and upon asking a fourth time, the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) responded “your father.”  So respect towards your mother comes three times before your father and rightfully so.  Your mother means so much to you that she deserves that much respect for caring to carry you 9 months in her womb and after that for caring so much for you as a child and even to this day if she is alive, she cares for you.

The Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) once narrated in a hadith (tradition) that “Paradise lies under the feet of the mother.” So if you are good to your mother, your ticket to paradise should be punched.  That’s how easy it is! Take care of your mother!  But what have we seen in the past decade? We have seen a society that once loved to use jokes that begin with “Your Momma…”  Instead, we should be talking about how great our mothers are and how much they mean to us rather than joking about each other’s mother with insults.

Celebrating Mother’s and Father’s Day

With the spring season now upon us in the northern hemisphere, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are literally around the corner.  But why are we stopping for one day a year to celebrate both of our parents?  When I am asked every year what I am doing for these special days, I say the same thing every year and share it with everyone on the world wide web; “mother’s day and father’s day should be everyday, not a day in May and a day in June.”  That’s what Islam preaches, celebrating our mothers and fathers by caring for them and respecting them.  Let’s help bring that back as the norm and not the status quo.

The next time…

So the next time any of us wants to scream or argue with our parents, let’s bite our tongues and obey our parents.  It is preserved on the Heavenly preserved tablet (the Lauh Al Mahfudh) that Allah s.w.t. said “I am God, and there is no deity except Me. I am pleased with those with whom their parents are pleased, and I am displeased with those with whom their parents are displeased.”  Regardless of our wealth, education or status, isn’t it about time we all treat our parents with respect and dignity?  For however we treat our parents, our children will treat us the same way.


~ by Yousaf on April 5, 2010.

One Response to “Parents: A Gateway to Paradise, Author: Issa Abbasi”

  1. great reminder. jazakallah brother issa

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