Why (not) me? Author: Issa Abbasi

You always hear this phrase whenever a sad news story is played.  The victim, given their ailment, sickness, trial, tribulation, etc., asks the reporter “why me?” regarding their situation.  Well, have we ever stopped to ask ourselves another question, “why not me?”  If we haven’t, then now is a good time for us all to ask ourselves, “why not me?”

There are many ways to approach this question.  We are actually given direct answers from Allah s.w.t. for the “why me” question in the ayahs below:

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return. They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones [2:155-157] .” [Translation by Dr. Mohsin Khan]

No one likes being sick, or losing money, but this ayah should be able to keep anyone going who truly believes and remembers in the Creator and Sustainer of the Universe at the beginning of an affliction.

“…But you may dislike something which is good for you, and you may like something which is bad for you. God knows while you do not know [2:216].” [Translation by Dr. Mohsin Khan]

Abu Suhayb ibn Sinaan narrated that the Prophet said: “How amazing is the case of the believer; there is good for him in everything, and this characteristic is exclusively for him alone. If he experiences something pleasant, he is thankful, and that is good for him; and if he comes across some adversity, he is patient, and that is good for him.” [Muslim]

Also, do not forget what Allah s.w.t. asks us to reply when faced with a challenge, trial, or tribulation.

“Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return [2:156].” [Translation by Dr. Mohsin Khan]

If you ever feel inclined to ask yourself the “why me?” question, just remember the following hadith:

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “He whom Allah intends good, He makes him to suffer from some affliction”.

Finally, remember that a trial is from the Lord of the Universe, the One who created the sun, the moon and well, everything.  He is the Best multi-tasker such that He has given everyone a special test for their own life!  Imagine that you are a security officer for a large department store.  You are sitting in the command room and can see every angel from 20 cameras in the store.  Do you know what is going on with each and every person’s life? Nope, you don’t, but Allah s.w.t. does.  Remarkable, isn’t it?  So the next time you get a test from the Best, remain calm, accept the situation and know that “Verily, along with every hardship is relief [94:5] [Translation by Dr. Mohsin Khan].”

P.S. Allah s.w.t. uses trials for those who believe to become closer, not further away from Him, so the next time “why me?” crosses your mind, seek refuge from Shaytan and realize that your Lord picked you and this trial for a reason.

“A calamity which makes you turn to Allah is better for you than a blessing which makes you forget the remembrance of Allah” ~ Ibn Taymiyyah


~ by Yousaf on January 1, 2010.

3 Responses to “Why (not) me? Author: Issa Abbasi”

  1. Salam Issa,

    I like this article, and I believe many can benefit from it. I only have one correction, the Hadith of Abu Suhaib ben Sinan, it should say “adversity not diversity” Do you agree?. I think the spell checker may have changed it without you noticing… Ammo Mohammad..


    • Jazaka Allahu Khairan! It’s been changed and I believe your theory was correct. Spell checker should learn to mind its business about grammar…well, sometimes 😉

  2. I did wrote my car why me at the back.boz evythng i do,doeznt go my way.im always cryng.

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